Tuesday, January 15, 2008

You Don’t Always Get What You Want….



For several hours I prepared a scrumptious roast, gravy, sweet potato casserole, veggies, crescent rolls, a festive fruit salad, and assorted sweets. Our family gathered together around the dining table to enjoy this feast.

Then the complaining started. One child after another pointed out some detail that did not suite. I tried to ignore them.

“Momma,” Donovan pointed to “seeds” in his green beans, “why do the beans have seeds? I don’t like seeds.”

Because that is how beanstalks grow, Donovan. Seeds are planted in the ground and bean sprouts erupt into dozens of green beans. They are bundled up, brought to farmer’s markets, or sent to stores with “seeds” inside them.

Callie followed more cleverly. “Is that a nut? When I was a little girl I told my mommy I didn’t like nuts. Maybe I should push it away.”

Nearly cracking a tooth I explain. “I like nuts. A pecan grove used to cover our backyard when I was growing up. Pecans are my favorite.”

I notice Benjamin spitting out his roast. He moves on to another choice.

Now I am sneering. “When I was younger I volunteered at a food bank. Children all over the world sometimes get very little to eat. They do not get food piled up high on their plates like you do. They go to bed and their tummies are still hungry."

Brett mentioned Mickey Mouse’s Christmas Carol. “Remember when Mickey’s whole family had to cut up one tiny pea? That was all they had to eat? It wasn’t very much was it?”

Donovan cocked his head to one side. “I don’t like peas.”

Sighing heavily I add, “Some kids would love a plate of peas to eat because their tummies never feel full.”

Callie chews a mouthful of potatoes thoughtfully. “You don’t always get what you want, Donovan … But sometimes you also don’t get what you need.”

Friday, January 4, 2008

Wordy Apparel


Donovan found silly putty inside his stocking. A wonderful, stretchy blob of gum. Something useful to pull, tug, bounce, and adhere to surfaces.

Not once has it called it silly putty. He smashes it flat, admires its thickness, and rolls it in a ball. "Momma, look at my Silly Lilly Pad".

Indeed. Silly Lilly Pad is what the other children call it too. When I call it silly putty I am corrected. "No. It is my Silly Lilly Pad."

That is not the only re-named object floating around our house. Kids live in a world that they try to understand. When something does not make sense, they do their best to make sense of it.

Callie loved singing Christmas carols. Driving around town I smiled as she belted out her own rendition of "Deck the Halls".

"Deck the Halls with bows and holly. Fa la la la la, la la la la. Now is the time to feel all jolly. Fa la la la la, la la la la. Now we down our yellow barrels. Fa la la la la, la la la la."

Beautiful girl with her darling voice. She made the song her own. She created new lyrics, equally meaningful, sang with such passion, but in her words.

Benjamin is just as delightful. Mentally words are converted by his thesaurus for 4 year olds. Soon the other children adopt his words too.

On a road trip in the car he was watching "Curious George". To hear it, he wore headphones. At some point while playing he dropped them on the floor. "Momma, I need my headies back. Please."

Donovan plays with a"Silly Lilly Pad".

Callie sings about a barrel.

Benjamin wears headies.

I love that at such a young age they try to make sense of their surroundings. With a sharp intellect they squint their eyes and look around. Smiling in satisfaction they come to an acceptable conclusion.
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Tuesday, January 1, 2008

Tree Undressing

Down comes the tree. Decorations and glitter again held captive in tight packages. Boxed away for another year.

Undressing the tree today was especially hard for the kids. I prepared them days in advance. Sadly, I was not taken seriously.

"Kids, in a few days the tree is coming down. No more Christmas decorations until next year. It will all go into the basement."

Callie laughed at me. "No way, Mom!"

Donovan taunted me. "We need to put up more decorations."

Benjamin was more practicle. "Put the tree outside."

In my heart I knew they were all in for a rude awakening. A jolt to their sugar plum dreams. It was only a matter of days before our tree came down.

Today it did. Whimsy was shoved into a box. Boxes were labeled with black marker. Tree skirts were rolled up and stockings were pulled down. It was a messy situation to be sure.

With teary eyes Callie watched me. "No, Momma. Santa won't be able to find us."

Grimacing at garland that just won't lay flat I mutter. "Santa does not come agian until next year."

"I don't want to put the tree down." She throws herself into a fit of New Year's remorse.

Stabbing my finger on something sharp I wince. "Callie, it will be safe downstairs. Next year we'll bring it back up again. Okay?"

"No!" She begins flailing limbs now. "I want the lights on."

Brushing brown spots I realize it is the same sweater I wore days before. Flames shot from the stove and my sweater glowed with embers. For a moment I was a holiday firework display.


"Really, Callie. Next year. Mommy's ready to put it away. Just until next year. Stop crying."

As empathy goes .... I think I was being kind. Putting the decorations up is a one girl job at my house. Besides, lighting myself on fire surely was enough holiday fun for us all.


Awww ... Memories!

Happy New Year 2008!

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